Too many men get comfortable, even complacent, and forget that foreplay starts outside the bedroom. . . that kisses can start soft with cheek strokes, but end with the back of her hair being pulled in wild passion!!! Now I may or may not sleep with a woman on the first date. I'd like to get to know you to see if we can click on both an emotional and physical level. I'm not shallow, but I do need to be attracted to my partner.